Paying for your own wedding changes exactly one line — and gives you three good ways to write it. Twelve examples, from engraved-formal to a text you could send tonight.
The most-used opener for couples hosting: it honours both sets of parents without naming them, and it works whether they contributed money, help, or neither.
Together with their families Amelia Grace Hart and Julian Reyes request the honour of your presence at their marriage Saturday, the eleventh of September two thousand twenty-seven at four o'clock in the afternoon The Willow Barn Hudson, New York
Together with our families we invite you to celebrate our marriage Nadia Haddad & Elias Fournier Saturday, May 15, 2027 at 5:30pm The Fern Room Montreal, Quebec Dinner and dancing to follow
Together with our families, and after a truly excessive amount of planning, Sofia and Andrew are getting married. Saturday, May 15, 2027 · 4pm The Grove at Pinehurst, Austin TX Tacos, dancing, one short ceremony
With the love and support of our families Rowan Avery and Devon Carrow invite you to share in their joy as they are married Sunday, the sixth of June two thousand twenty-seven at three o'clock in the afternoon Kettle Hollow Farm Asheville, North Carolina
Ana Salgado and Marcus Chen together with their parents Rita and Paulo Salgado Wei and Grace Chen invite you to their wedding Saturday, September 18, 2027 at 5:00pm Kettle Hollow Farm Asheville, North Carolina Reception to follow
Together with our families we're finally doing it. Eleanor & Thomas Saturday, June 12, 2027 Ceremony 4:30 · Dinner 6:00 The Hallowell Library, Boston Please reply by May 1
Set the host line to “the couple” or “families together” in the generator and compare the two versions side by side with your own details in them.
Lead with your names and let the request line follow them. This is the cleanest option when parents aren't contributing, when families are complicated, or when you simply prefer it.
Eleanor Rose Whitfield and Thomas James Ashby request the pleasure of your company at their marriage Saturday, the twelfth of June two thousand twenty-seven at four o'clock in the afternoon The Hallowell Library Boston, Massachusetts Reception to follow
Miriam Adler & Jonah Reyes are getting married and would love you there Sunday, July 4, 2027 at 11:00am Ridgeway Brewing Co. Chicago, Illinois Brunch reception to follow
Priya and Kwame are getting married! Saturday, August 22, 2027 Ceremony at 2, dinner at 6 The Old Chapel at Fairmount Providence, Rhode Island RSVP by July 1 at anandosei.wedding
The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of Annika Lindqvist and Samuel Cole Saturday, the third of October two thousand twenty-seven at four o'clock in the afternoon Kettle Hollow Farm Asheville, North Carolina
We're getting married, and we want you there. Sofia Almeida & Andrew Kealoha Saturday, May 15, 2027 · 4:00pm 12 Sable Lane, Savannah, Georgia Backyard ceremony, long dinner, later than you think Text us by April 1
Nadia & Elias are getting married Friday, November 7, 2027 at 5pm City Hall, then dinner at Ombra Montreal, Quebec Twenty people, one long table, and you
The host line is the most politically loaded line on the invitation. Five ways to keep it accurate and kind.
With no host line, the invitation leads with your names and the request line follows them: “Eleanor and Thomas request the pleasure of your company at their marriage.” Keeping the request line first without a host reads as an error.
It acknowledges love and support, not funding. It is the right choice for most couples paying their own way — including those whose parents contributed something but not the whole day.
Listing one set and not the other is the fastest way to cause hurt. Either name every parent, or name none and use the “together with our families” line.
The traditional “to” marks the host's child being married to someone. When you host yourselves, you are equal parties on the invitation — “and” is correct.
Parents sometimes expect to appear on the invitation even when they haven't paid for it. One conversation beforehand costs less than reprinting a hundred cards.
Each of these comes up constantly in the same three situations.
Copying a template that opens “Mr. and Mrs. request the honour…” when you are paying yourselves misrepresents who is hosting — and commits your parents to a role they may not have agreed to.
Unless one family is genuinely hosting, single-family host lines read as a statement about whose wedding it is. If only one set contributed, “together with our families” is the graceful cover.
“With thanks to our parents” turns the invitation into a speech. Thank them in the programme, at the reception, or in a note — the invitation is for inviting.
Set to “families together with the couple.” Switch the host line to “the couple” or “no host line” to see how the opening changes with your names in it.
A phone number, a website, or “reply to this text.”
It signals that the couple is hosting with their families' blessing and support, without naming anyone or making a claim about who paid. It is the most common opener for couples hosting their own weddings, and it works equally well when both, one, or neither set of parents contributed.
Use “their families” when the invitation is written in third person — the traditional formal register. Use “our families” when the invitation speaks in your voice, which is most modern and casual wording. Whichever you pick, keep the person consistent across the whole card.
Not at all. Leading with your names is standard for couples hosting themselves and is often the kindest option when families are blended, estranged, or complicated. Etiquette only asks that the invitation be truthful about who is inviting.
You can, and many couples do: list both sets under your names as “together with their parents.” If only one family contributed, naming them alone will read as a statement about the other, so “together with our families” is usually the better call.
Yes, if the ceremony is in a house of worship — the phrase describes the venue, not the host. Everywhere else it is “request the pleasure of your company.” The generator picks correctly based on the tone and details you enter.
The programme, the reception toast, or a line on your wedding website. Some couples also list parents on the ceremony programme under “Parents of the couple,” which gives them a named place without changing who is hosting.
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