Eighteen inclusive vow examples written without a single assumption about who's standing at the altar. Whether you're searching for LGBTQ wedding vows, same-sex wedding vows, or simply words that fit the two of you exactly, borrow a line, steal a structure, then make it yours with our free generator.
If you've ever borrowed vows and had to edit around words that weren't written with you in mind, these are for you: promises built on the only things every marriage shares — two people and a choice. Nothing to swap, nothing to work around.
I choose you — not once, today, but every ordinary morning that follows. I promise to listen before I answer, to hold your worries as gently as your hopes, and to build a home where you are always safe, always wanted, and never alone. Whatever we become, we become it together.
You are the calm in my loudest days and the courage in my quietest ones. I vow to stand beside you in every season, to celebrate your wins louder than my own, and to keep choosing this life we're building — brick by brick, year by year, hand in hand.
I promise to be your shelter and your open door: a place to rest and a reason to leap. When the world asks who I belong to, I will say your name. When it asks what I believe in, I will point to this — to you, to us, to everything we promise today.
Today I take you as my spouse, my witness, and my home. I promise honesty when it's hard, patience when it's late, and tenderness always. I will grow old learning you, because a lifetime is exactly long enough to begin to know a heart as good as yours.
I marry you with my whole history and my whole future — every version of me that led here, and every one still to come. I promise that all of them will love you. Through change, through luck, through loss, you will never wonder where I stand: beside you.
You never asked me to be anyone but myself, and somehow that made me better. So I vow to offer you the same freedom: room to grow, arms to return to, and a love that keeps no score. Wherever you are going, I am going too.
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Full-hearted and unhurried. These vows say the tender things out loud — the kind of lines that make the room lean in and your partner forget anyone else is there.
Before you, love was a word I used carefully. Now it is the language I think in. I promise you slow dances in the kitchen, letters on ordinary days, and my full attention for the rest of my life. You are the most beautiful thing I have ever been sure of.
I have loved you in airports and waiting rooms, on mountains and in grocery lines, and I have learned this: anywhere becomes somewhere when you're in it. So take my hand and my promise — every day I'm given, I will spend making you feel as loved as you make me feel.
The one I marry today is the same one I would choose in every version of this life — earlier, later, harder, easier; all of them end with you. I vow to keep falling for you on purpose, to romance you long after the wedding, and to love you completely, and then a little more.
You are my favorite hello and my hardest goodbye, the reason ordinary rooms feel lit from the inside. I promise to protect the quiet things between us, to say the tender words out loud, and to keep this love a living thing — watered, warmed, and growing — until my last day.
I don't promise you a perfect life; I promise you a true one. Slow mornings and long roads, honest arguments and softer landings, and a love that pays attention. You will be adored here — not for a season, not while it's easy, but always, because you are you.
When I imagine every good thing still ahead — gray hair, full tables, quiet anniversaries — you are in all of it. So I give you this vow like a ring: unbroken, deliberate, and yours. My heart recognized yours early, and it has never once looked back.
For couples whose love language is the group-chat-worthy one-liner. These start with a laugh and land on a promise — modern vows with the warmth left in.
I promise to love you through every questionable haircut, every 2 a.m. "are you awake?" — I am now — and every time you say you're five minutes away. I know the truth about those five minutes. I'm marrying you anyway: gladly, entirely, and on the record, forever.
I vow to be your partner in everything: taxes, road trips, and deciding what to watch, which we both know takes longer than the show. You get my loyalty, my snacks, and the good phone charger. That's real love, and everyone in this room knows it.
Marrying you means signing up for a lifetime of your playlists, your theories, and your victory dance when you turn out to be right. I have read the terms and conditions. I accept them all — enthusiastically, permanently, and in front of witnesses.
I promise to keep your secrets, waste only time with you, and defend your parallel parking to anyone who questions it. You are my favorite notification, my best decision, and as of today, officially my spouse. To everyone else: better luck next lifetime.
You once said you'd marry me when I learned to close a cabinet. The cabinets are still open, and yet here you are. I vow to spend forever earning that kind of grace — and to always leave you the last bite, which we both know is the bigger one.
Loving you is the easiest thing I have ever done, and assembling furniture with you is the hardest, and I'm keeping both. I promise you a lifetime of inside jokes, outside adventures, and one shared calendar we will actually use. Probably. I love you. Definitely.
Most vow trouble isn't the writing — it's the defaults baked into scripts, readings, and officiant habits. A few decisions up front and everything else falls into place.
Classic vows convert cleanly: "I take you to be my wedded spouse" or "my lawfully wedded partner" carries the same weight as the original. Change the noun, keep the cadence — the tradition survives the edit intact.
"I now pronounce you married," "partners for life," "spouses," or simply your names — all work beautifully. Choose the phrase together before the ceremony so the biggest line of the day sounds like you, not like a template.
Most beloved readings need only a pronoun pass to fit any couple. Keep the poems and passages you love; a light edit honors both the text and the two of you. Read the adapted version aloud once to check the rhythm still holds.
Give your officiant a short written list: the nouns you use for each other, the pronouncement phrasing, and any script lines to replace. Good officiants welcome it — but only if they get it before rehearsal, not at the altar.
If you're both writing your own, agree on rough length, tone, and number of promises. Parallel vows feel like a matched set even when the words differ — and neither of you gets ambushed by a three-minute gap.
Gender-neutral doesn't mean tradition-free. "For better, for worse, in sickness and in health" belongs to every couple; keep the lines that ring true and rewrite only the ones that assume things about you. That's not breaking tradition — it's how traditions have always evolved.
None of these are about the writing — they're about the defaults around it. Catch them early and your ceremony simply sounds like it was always meant for you.
Many standard scripts still default to bride-and-groom wording in a dozen small places — the welcome, the pronouncement, the introduction of the couple. Ask for the full script in advance and read every line; the vows you wrote can't fix the script around them.
You don't owe the room a footnote. Saying "partner" or "spouse" and moving on reads as natural because it is; pausing to justify the word choice turns a promise into a disclaimer. Say your vows the way you'd say anything true — plainly.
A vow lifted from a book or template often hides a stray pronoun three lines in. Read every borrowed line aloud slowly before the day — your ear will catch what your eye skims past, and the altar is the wrong place to sight-read an edit.
Your ceremony doesn't need to litigate the history of who got to marry whom. A line of gratitude can be powerful if it's yours — but the vows themselves should be about the person in front of you, not the paperwork behind you.
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The most common swaps are "spouse," "partner," or simply each other's names — "I take you to be my wedded spouse" keeps the full weight of the traditional line. For the pronouncement, "I now pronounce you married" or "partners for life" both work beautifully. Pick the terms that sound like how you already talk about each other, and use them consistently through the vows, the script, and the toasts.
Almost always, it's a one-word edit: replace the gendered noun and keep everything else. "To have and to hold, for better, for worse, in sickness and in health" contains no gender at all — only the opening line needs changing. Do the same pronoun pass on any readings you borrow, then read the result aloud once to confirm the rhythm survived. It nearly always does.
No — same structure, same advice. Great vows are great vows: a story, a handful of specific promises, and a sincere closing line, usually one to two minutes long. The only extra step for many LGBTQ couples is checking that the officiant's script and any borrowed readings match your wording, since older templates often assume roles. The examples on this page need no editing at all.
Send a short list before rehearsal: the terms you use for each other, how you want to be pronounced, how you want to be introduced afterward, and any script lines to replace. Then ask to read the complete script yourself — small defaults hide in the welcome and closing remarks. Experienced officiants expect this conversation and will usually thank you for making it explicit.
Yes — that's what they're for. Every example here was written to fit any couple with zero editing, so there are no stray pronouns to catch. Most couples keep the structure of a favorite and swap in their own memories and promises. For a faster start, the generator below asks only for your names and drafts inclusive wedding vows in your voice.
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