What are the traditional wedding vows?
The traditional wedding vows most people recognize — "to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health" — trace to the 1662 Book of Common Prayer. That historic English form is the ancestor of most classic marriage vows spoken today, and countless variations keep its paired-phrase structure while adjusting individual words.
Can we personalize traditional wedding vows?
Yes — the classic form takes personalization beautifully. The usual approach is to keep the traditional structure and cadence, then weave in one specific line: a memory, a habit you love, a promise unique to you. The third set of examples above shows how it's done. If your ceremony is religious, check first whether the rite allows changes to its wording.
Do we have to say the standard wedding vows?
Usually not word for word. In most civil ceremonies you can write your own vows entirely, though many jurisdictions require a declaration of intent — the "I do" moment — in some form. Religious ceremonies are stricter and may require set wording. Ask your officiant what's legally and liturgically required, then decide how much of the standard wedding vows you want to keep.
Are these the exact vows used in Catholic or other church weddings?
No — and that matters. Many religious ceremonies, including Catholic, Episcopal/Anglican, and others, prescribe exact required wording for the vows, and only your officiant or church can give you the official text. Treat the examples on this page as inspiration for civil ceremonies or for personal-vow additions, and confirm any required liturgical wording directly with your officiant rather than with a website.
Can I use these traditional vow examples as my own?
Yes — they're written to be borrowed. Every example is original text in the classic register, so you can use one as-is in a civil ceremony, swap in your own detail, or blend phrases from several. For a faster start, the generator below is preloaded with the traditional tone: add your details and it drafts vows in the same timeless cadence.