CAPACITY 120 · A FINISHED LIST
Tier A — 42 people · 24 invitations
Tier B — 71 people · 44 invitations
Tier C — 18 people · 11 invitations
Not inviting — 26 people, kept on the sheet and left out of the file
Invited total: 131 people in 79 households
Over by 11. Take Tier C off whole and you are at 113, with room for the two households you are still arguing about.
Circle check: no split layers.
CAPACITY 50 · WHO IS STILL IN AT FIFTY
Immediate family — 14 people · 6 invitations
Grandparents — 3 people · 2 invitations
Wedding party and their partners — 10 people · 5 invitations
Close friends — 16 people · 8 invitations
First cousins — whole circle out
Coworkers — whole circle out
Invited total: 43 people in 21 households
7 spare. At this size the spare seats buy you one more circle, not seven more favors — pick the circle before anyone asks.
CAPACITY 150 · THE LIST AS IT ARRIVES
Invited total: 214 people in 108 households
⚠ Over by 64
Take the coworkers layer off whole: −18 people → 196. Still over by 46.
Take second cousins off whole: −12 people → 184. Over by 34.
Take the rest of Tier C off whole: −38 people → 146. Under, with 4 spare.
— Three whole-layer decisions and the list fits. The version of this that takes four evenings is the one where you argue about 64 individual names. Open this list in the builder above and the same three cuts are three clicks.
CAPACITY 200 · TWO BIG FAMILIES
Your side — 96 people · 54 invitations
Their side — 71 people · 43 invitations
Friends, both of you — 38 people · 22 invitations
Invited total: 205 people in 119 households
Over by 5.
— Both sides ran the same rule: first cousins in, second cousins out, partners named where we knew them. The totals came out 25 people apart and neither family can point at a rule that was applied to only one of them.
ONE HOUSEHOLD, TWO ROWS
First Name: Rosa · Last Name: Alvarez · Household: Rosa & Julio Alvarez · Plus Ones: 0
First Name: Julio · Last Name: Alvarez · Household: Rosa & Julio Alvarez · Plus Ones: 0
— Two rows, two people in the count, one invitation. The rows are what make two place cards; the identical household label is what makes one envelope. Type the label the same way both times or they will not sort together.
A NAMED PARTNER, NOT AN ANONYMOUS SEAT
Nico · Alvarez · Household: Nico Alvarez & Sam Whitfield · Plus Ones: 0
Sam · Whitfield · Household: Nico Alvarez & Sam Whitfield · Plus Ones: 0
Compare with the same guest written the other way:
Nico · Alvarez · Household: Nico Alvarez · Plus Ones: 1
— Both cost two seats. Only the first version knows Sam's name, and only the first version can put Sam's name on anything. Name the partner whenever you know it; use the Plus Ones column when you genuinely do not.
A FAMILY — FOUR ROWS, ONE INVITATION
Marcus · Alvarez · Household: The Alvarez family · Plus Ones: 0
Ines · Alvarez · Household: The Alvarez family · Plus Ones: 0
Elena · Alvarez · Household: The Alvarez family · Plus Ones: 0 · age 9
Tomas · Alvarez · Household: The Alvarez family · Plus Ones: 0 · age 6
— Four seats, one invitation, one decision. If the wedding is child-free, Elena and Tomas come off because a policy applied to every household came off — never as a note added to this one household.
ONE ROW, ONE PLUS ONE
Camila · Reyes · Household: Camila Reyes · Plus Ones: 1
Héctor · Reyes · Household: Héctor Reyes · Plus Ones: 0
— Camila is engaged and Héctor is single, so one gets a seat for a partner and one does not. That is a standard being applied, not a judgment: married, engaged or living together, every friend on the list, no exceptions made at eleven at night. Two rows, two invitations, three seats.
TIER A — NO WEDDING WITHOUT THEM
Parents and step-parents · 6 people · 4 invitations
Siblings and their partners · 7 people · 4 invitations
Grandparents · 3 people · 2 invitations
Wedding party and their partners · 12 people · 6 invitations
— 28 people, 16 invitations. Do this tier first and do it fast; it is the only tier nobody argues about. If Tier A alone is over your number, the problem is the room and no amount of cutting further down will fix it.
TIER B — YOU WANT THEM THERE
First cousins, both sides · 15 people · 11 invitations
Aunts and uncles, both sides · 14 people · 7 invitations
Close friends · 18 people · 10 invitations
College friends · 12 people · 7 invitations
— 59 people, 35 invitations. This is the tier that decides whether the list fits, and the one worth spending an evening on. A is fixed; C is the first thing you will take off; B is the actual decision.
TIER C — ONLY IF THERE IS ROOM
Parents' friends · 12 people · 6 invitations
Neighbors · 6 people · 3 invitations
Second cousins · 9 people · 6 invitations
Coworkers beyond the immediate team · 8 people · 6 invitations
— 35 people, 21 invitations. Give the tier its honest name while you are building it: this is the pile that comes off first, whole, in one decision. Sorting it into a ranking is how one decision becomes four evenings.
⚠ CIRCLE CHECK — FIRST COUSINS
On the list: Diego Alvarez, Paloma Alvarez, Nico Alvarez
Not on the list: Camila Reyes, Héctor Reyes, Lucia Reyes, Mateo Reyes
You are inviting 3 of 7 in this layer.
— Invite the layer or cut the layer. The checker has no opinion about your cousins; it just makes sure the four who are out are not the only people who notice the split.
⚠ CIRCLE CHECK — COWORKERS
Team of nine. Six on the list, three off.
You are inviting 6 of 9 in this layer.
— More invited than excluded, which is the version that gets discussed on the Monday. Two clean answers exist: the whole team, or only the two you would have a drink with if you both quit tomorrow. Six of nine is not one of them.
wedding-guest-list.csv — the file exactly as it downloads
First Name,Last Name,Household,Plus Ones
Rosa,Alvarez,Rosa & Julio Alvarez,0
Julio,Alvarez,Rosa & Julio Alvarez,0
Camila,Reyes,Camila Reyes,1
Nico,Alvarez,Nico Alvarez & Sam Whitfield,0
Sam,Whitfield,Nico Alvarez & Sam Whitfield,0
Bea,Whitfield,Bea Whitfield,1
— Four columns and no others: no phone column, no address column, nothing that changes after the invitations go out. Tiers A, B and C are in the file; the not-inviting pile stays on this page.
PASTED INTO GOOGLE SHEETS, OR OPENED IN EXCEL
A B C D
1 First Name Last Name Household Plus Ones
2 Rosa Alvarez Rosa & Julio Alvarez 0
3 Julio Alvarez Rosa & Julio Alvarez 0
4 Camila Reyes Camila Reyes 1
— Sort by column C and every household lands together, which is the order the list should live in from here on. Add whatever columns you like to the right; the four on the left are the ones anything else can read.
THE PRINT LAYOUT — grouped by household, one page
ROSA & JULIO ALVAREZ ............ 2 · Tier A · Immediate family
BEA WHITFIELD + guest ........... 2 · Tier B · Aunts and uncles
CAMILA REYES + guest ............ 2 · Tier B · First cousins
NICO ALVAREZ & SAM WHITFIELD .... 2 · Tier B · First cousins
THE ALVAREZ FAMILY .............. 4 · Tier C · Parents' friends
— 5 invitations, 12 seats. Print it, or save it as a PDF, and hand it to a parent with a pen in their hand. People argue with paper far more usefully than they argue with a spreadsheet.